The first thing that comes to mind at the mention of the word reconciliation is restoration. Reconciliation can be of a broken marriage, a broken relationship or a violent country. Let’s not forget reconciliation with one’s self, with our lost dreams, broken past and depression.
I hold the opinion that reconciliation holds more than just restoration. It is forgiveness, looking past the ill done and looking forward to better and brighter times. That means to let go of the anger and the hurting that people have caused you and deciding on peace; of mind, of the heart and the soul. You don’t need an expert to tell you that keeping hate or anger is like taking poison and praying the other person dies from it, he or she won’t; but you will. My grandmother, God rest her soul in perfect peace, always said, “Forgive and reconcile with people not because it’s the right thing to do but because you get to sleep with a clean heart.”
I believe in precaution so, before doing something that will lead to an argument and thereafter seeking reconciliation, how about checking on your words and your actions? Be quick to listen, slow to talk and most definitely take your time before reacting because words spoken or actions or reactions can never be taken back; and not even the most emotional heartfelt apology can erase them nor the effects they have on the recipient. Don’t do to anyone what you wouldn’t want done to you. Before you go and bring about justice as an excuse of reacting, remember justice is bringing balance for a harm done, not revenge. One who wants justice comes with clean hands.
However, you can’t give what you don’t have so before you can go reconciling with others and playing happy, you need first to reconcile with yourself. Forgive yourself for your misgivings whether it’s the past choices or lost dreams. Let bygones be bygones; just don’t forget the lesson it taught you.
I have learnt over the years that reconciliation is much needed in our country as well as within ourselves. We all have witnessed the consequences of its lack. The ball is now on your side. Sanity does depend on reconciliation.